Seven Changes I Made to Change My Life
How to Network Your Life Into Profits
By Richard Ravarino
My buddy Randy tried to pound this one into my head over the last four years, but I am stubborn (and he can be an ass at times), so it took some dogged determination on his end (and a long look in the mirror (for me) to finally get the point across). He told me, “To get the things you have never had, you have to be willing to do things you have never done”. For that, I thank him.
To him that meant working like a slave, making next to nothing – Until the big payoff. Many times, I truly am too stubborn to listen, but if you have ever had an over-bearing boss that really has the ability to get under your skin and push your buttons, it some times takes a parting of ways for principles that he tried to instill in you, to sink in.
Once they finally did, I got hungry. I got pissed off, and I started to make the changes that he would have like to have seen, while he was still signing my checks. Too often people want success, but they are not observing themselves from an outside view, if we could only gain that perspective and step outside of our own heads, we could see why we often send ourselves running in circles.
In the following paragraphs I am going to do my best, to flush out my own shortcomings and explain to you the small, but significant adjustments I made, to put myself on a winning course. There were seven of these adjustments I made, which cumulatively set me on a fresh course (in all honesty, it fixed my spinning compass and put me on a course that is finally navigable). I’m not where I want to be yet, but my boat is finally well keeled and my compass is reading true, with the wind at my back, I will happily share these nuggets of wisdom.
So what kind of adjustments did I make?
#1. Sleep became a luxury. Real toil – Real work getting done was what made the difference. I had to put all the crap going on in my life (and the world), completely out of my head. Politics? Yeah, you guys know I’m a “died-in-the-wool” Conservative Libertarian, but where was it getting me? I was becoming a negative Nelly. I bitched and I moaned on a daily basis and things only got worse.
Gee, I wonder why?
Think about that. Look there is no magic pill for success. If you want it, you have to show the world you want it and you have to reach for it. I doubt there was more than a weekend or two that I disengaged and tried to relax – Truthfully, old habits die-hard. I didn’t want to fall back into my old habits, so even those “relaxing weekends”; I ended up talking shop with the people I’d meet.
#2 Turn off the boob tube. TV is a waste of your time! “But what about the news?!?” Network news? Do you enjoy being lied to? Things suck out there. . . They are bad and getting worse, regardless of how they spin it. Do you need that negativity in your life? Not right now, you don’t! Let me tell you something, there is nothing so important that is going to be aired as the story of your financial freedom and that story will never be told, while you are sitting around watching for it on TV.
Nowadays, I barely watch anything. If I were going to enjoy a sports event, I’d rather do it in person. . . Or even at a busy sports bar among friends. You are wasting your time in front of the television. Turn it off. Focus on what’s going to make you money! By the way, one caveat. . . I do still watch American Idol.
After being a karaoke DJ for 15 years, I feel like I could be there on the bench with JLo, Steven and Randy. It’s my one guilty pleasure and no one is perfect. But that’s 2-3 hours per week and 2.5 days over a season. That’s like I threw away a three day weekend – poof! Gone! All because I was vegging in front of the idiot box. Just trying to putting things in perspective. . .That and I don’t want to be called a hypocrite when somebody calls me on it. I love my IDOL! Go Colton!!! ☺
#3 “Let’s get pizza and go to a game?”
“Dude! Let’s go check out that new club!”
“Hey, come grab a beer with me, man!”
You MUST ignore any and all attempts to get you distracted. This is a big one! Just one month into building my business, I was feeling some measure of success and for some reason, people knew it! My phone was ringing and people wanted me to do stuff – Hell, I wanted to do stuff! Don’t do it! Once again, I bring up my buddy Randy, love him (and hate him), he pounded this point into me, “FOCUS!” I know that sounds harsh, we all want to have a little fun in life, but once again, we are not trying to change our income level by a few insubstantial dollars, we are trying to change our lives! Don’t lose focus! The time will come and if you don’t compromise, it will be amazing!
#4 Be a positive influence on everyone around you and if you surround yourself with negative people – find new friends! I mean that in all sincerity. You have heard the analogy of people closest to you, being like fellow crabs in a pot? The harder you try and escape, the more they will cling on to you, assuring that you never leave their “loving” grasp.
Just say no.
If you have to completely remove them from your life. . . Just do it.
Until you can create the new patterns of success in your life, which elevate you beyond their grasp they will just bring you down. Later, once you’ve made it (and you’ll know you have made it, when someone you respect tells you “its okay to take your foot off the gas – enjoy it now!”. At that point, if there are any of them you still hold hope for, reach out and extend a welcome hand. Feel free to pull them out of the mire, once you are immune to their insanity (but only then).
#5 Let me be clear here. There is no magic BB in this business. The “perfect” path for us all to follow. The methods of success, they are as varied as the fish in the sea. One guy will make it doing meetings or webinars. Some people are naturals on the phone, attracting prospect after prospect with the velvet sounds of their voice. I’m a social networking guy myself – Everyone has their thing they are good at. Do some research and find yours. My point is, this isn’t the 1970’s anymore and there are far more sophisticated options that just, “your list”.
#6 Buy a self-improvement course. Subscribe to Success Magazine. LISTEN to what other powerful industry leaders have done to change their lives. Draw on that inspiration! Author Antony Robbins started these kinds of conversations a generation ago, with his Absolute Power series. They are everywhere, make use of them! They will put you in a mindset to be successful. Don’t be afraid to “fake it, until you make it”!
#7 This kind of dovetails into the last point, but don’t be afraid to invest in yourself. Get away from trying to do everything on a budget, or even worse, for free. The information you get, is often worth what you pay for it. Think about what I just said, maybe even re-read the first part of this paragraph.
The recordings are only going to get you so far. At some point, you are going to need one on one, interactive coaching with a warm body – at the very least, pay for one of these gurus systems. It will change your fortunes. Most of the times, “Free” is the most expensive way you can learn something.
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